I've noticed a question popping up frequently lately... from family, friends, coworkers, and clients (who love to delve into my personal life.)
What are you looking for in a man?
To which I usually reply, "I don't know," or "I'll know when I find it." The truth, however, is that neither of these responses are accurate. I have an idea of what I want, but probably wouldn't recognize it if it was staring me in the face. (Besides that I don't like to be stared at.. so this would be a total turn-off.) It occurred to me that part of the reason for all the confusion is a contradiction in messages that have been programmed into my head for some time.
"You're not going to find your perfect man."
vs.
"Don't ever settle, girl!"
In an attempt to satisfy both, I've formulated a checklist. Apparently there isn't a soul on this planet who meets all of these ideals, but if I find anything remotely close, I'll take it.
Here we go:
~ OFFICIAL PERFECT-FOR-AMI CHECKLIST ~
_ Weighs more than I do. (Yes, this is important.)
_ Enjoys watching college football.
_ Not completely repulsed by reptiles. (Lyle wouldn't have it.)
_ Appreciates playing and/or watching basketball.
_ Will play catch with me upon request.
_ Plays or has played in a band. (Not marching.)
_ Is proud of my DanceDanceRevolution skills rather than embarrassed.
_ Dresses decently.
_ Does not have a completely inappropriate sense of humor.
_ Likes to sing. (Whether he's good at it or NOT.)
_ Has a motivation towards something beyond Playstation, XBox, or Nintendo.
_ Capable of changing brake pads and oil filters.
_ If he likes country music, neither Big&Rich nor Toby Keith are in his top 5.
_ If he likes hip hop music, neither Outkast nor Lil Wayne are in his top 5.
_ If he likes alternative music, Nickelback is not in his top 100...thousand. (Non-negotiable.)
_ Not a jerk when driving.
_ Minimal ear hair.
_ Not addicted to pornography. (Harder to find than you would think.)
_ Mild tempered.
_ Likes me. A whole lot.
And then of course he has to be a generally good guy with a strong testimony and respect for women. If I could get a majority of these things, that would be perfect enough for me.
Am I reaching for the stars here?!?
8 years ago
11 comments:
I think these are totally reasonable. Well, except changing an oil filter and brake pads. You're lucky these days if a man knows how to check the oil. Haha.
Stars are good! It means you have to be looking and reaching UP! Keep it UP.
I quite like you list! I don't think it is asking too much at all. :)
This is a pretty good list. Nothing unattainable for one person on it for sure. If he needs helping learning the oil/brakes thing send him to Kourt VERY easy to learn :) Actually I'm pretty sure you could teach him...haha!!
Hey there now....what's so wrong with Nickleback? J/K. See you TOMORROW. Bring on the O.B.O. negotiating. I'm going to throw scenarios at you like "he has no eyes, how can he like b.ball?"
i think you're list is very reasonable.
ps are you in az still?
if so, would you like to get lunch sometime? :)
Coming from a guys point of view I am going to say that most of that list should be obtainable, and reading through your list a second time I realize that I hope that most of that is obtainable. Especially playing with you, good since of humor, music, driving and the last 3. Oh and I would hope he enjoys college football but I would forgive him if he didn't. lol
Liking college (OU) football is THE most important thing on the list!
Erin says this after having watched the Air Force/OU game with Ami...but it definitely is important for her.
Heaven forbid she marry a guy who hates sports--though I think those are an endangered species.
Though I'm late in joining the blog, I'll tell you how those two statements can coexist: The first statement is lacking a phrase. It should say "You're not going to find your perfect man - you'll find one that's perfect for YOU, meets all your specifications, and then some. He will be better than anything you could've come up with yourself!" & then "Don't settle" :) That's how those two work together.
Jared was everything I ever wanted, and then some and it's incredible that 1) someone met all my specifications & 2) could build on that to be even better! Your "the one" is out there too!
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